8 ways to help your introverted kid with Primary 1

By Lynn Wee   — January 03, 2017
  • 8 ways to help your introverted kid with Primary 1
    1 / 9 8 ways to help your introverted kid with Primary 1

    Your child is introverted and you are worried that she won’t speak up in primary school, where the teacher has a large class to attend to and therefore won’t have the time to mollycoddle her like her preschool teachers did.

    For example, she might be afraid to tell the teacher that she needs to go to the toilet, or to ask him to repeat his instructions.

    You know that an introverted child can easily get lost in the hubbub of the classroom. 

    Here are eight tips to encourage her to be more outgoing.

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  • 1. Don’t panic
    2 / 9 1. Don’t panic

    Remember that the way she behaves also depends on the particular context. 

    For instance, although she might be very quiet at home, she may be more talkative among her friends in class.

    So don’t assume that her personality will automatically cause problems.

    Related: Is your child an introvert or extrovert

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  • 2. Encourage classmate friendships
    3 / 9 2. Encourage classmate friendships

    The more friends she has, the more confident she’ll feel about expressing herself verbally in front of them.

    Encourage her to invite one or two classmates she likes to go over to your house after school. This way, she’ll be more relaxed in class.

    Related: Shy kids: Dancing helps

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  • 3. Avoid excessive pressure
    4 / 9 3. Avoid excessive pressure

    Your young one could be afraid you will push her too quickly into social situations that make her feel anxious, or that her teacher will force her to talk in front of the class when she isn’t ready. 

    So, reassure her that you won’t pressure her into becoming more outgoing.

    Related: How to adapt to your child’s personality

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  • 4. Reassure her
    5 / 9 4. Reassure her

    Remind your primary schooler that she is a lovely, talented, and very likeable child who has good ideas.

    Explain that she shouldn’t be afraid to speak out in class because everyone will value her contribution, and add that the teacher won’t be annoyed if she asks for help. 

    Your reassurance will be helpful.

    Related: 6 tips for talking with your introverted child

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  • 5. Practise at home
    6 / 9 5. Practise at home

    Role-play situations at home in which you are the teacher and she is the pupil. 

    Ask her questions with the requirement that she replies in a clear and loud voice. 

    She’ll feel silly doing it at first, but she’ll soon realise the benefits.

    Related: Tips for helping your shy child

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  • 6. Have realistic expectations
    7 / 9 6. Have realistic expectations

    Your seven-year-old doesn’t have to be the most outgoing child in the class, nor does she have to learn how to speak in front of a school assembly.

    She just has to gain enough social confidence to reply to her teacher and to socialise with her classmates.

    Related: 6 ways to boost your child’s social skills

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  • 7. Develop her strengths
    8 / 9 7. Develop her strengths

    Okay, so she’s quiet in class. But perhaps she is also booksmart, or good at working in groups, or is kind, or has a good singing voice. 

    Encourage her strengths so that she values herself, because the higher her self-esteem, the more she will feel able to speak out in class.

    Related: 4 ways to boost your child’s confidence

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  • 8. Monitor her progress
    9 / 9 8. Monitor her progress

    Monitor her progress

    Make a point of regularly asking about your kid’s experiences in class.

    Check that she communicates sufficiently with her teacher and her peers, and that she doesn’t feel that she is missing out. 

    Keep in touch with her teacher, as well.

    Related: An introverted child will hang back from the action at a comfortable distance

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