Why should I stop saying “good job!” to my kid?
Such short bursts of praise don’t provide children with useful information to repeat the positive behaviour. We need to tell them specifically what they’ve done well and why it is a good thing to do.
The best way to praise your child for his artwork is to say, for instance: “That is really nice work!
I can see you put a lot of effort into that. I like the way you experimented with the colours.” Keep your statements specific and positive, and don’t overdo it, such as: “Wow! That is just so beautiful; it’s the most beautiful thing ever!” Avoid exaggerating; children can tell when you are doing so.
It’s important to keep it in the moment, as well. Do not dig into the past to taint your praise. Avoid saying: “You are doing a great job working together this morning…so much better than yesterday!” or “You worked hard on this; you should really do that more often.” Although it is immediate and informative, it is a compliment wrapped inside an insult.