Your child starts to learn only when you learn to let go. That’s why independence is one of the greatest skills a parent can teach her child.
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This can be done by helping him develop important life skills, including tackling new tasks and making decisions on his own.
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Knowing he can reach out for things for himself helps foster independence.
You can offer help only when he has exhausted every possibility of completing the task.
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Explain that even though he can choose, he needs to do so correctly.
Setting boundaries can help him listen to instructions and carry them through independently.
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Cleaning, dressing and eating on his own may be tedious and messy but they cultivate patience, confidence, and independence.
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When he fails, encourage him to try again.
Being able to bounce back from failure builds a child’s resilience and tenacity.
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Being over-involved can stifle his decision-making.
When you are under-involved, however, he may feel unloved and lost.
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Praise your child for completing the task on his own.
Decide when to praise and when it is okay not to do so.
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Encourage him to take responsibility for his actions.
12 / 13 Teach social skillsLoad more
A socially competent child cooperates with his peers without prompting, helps others, and extends empathy and patience.
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A child who is emotionally stable will not become worked up when mistakes happen ― he can pick himself up and try again.
He will be able to settle minor conflicts with his peers without intervention from an adult.
A child who is afraid to make mistakes and blames others when mistakes occur will grow up afraid to take on new challenges and become less dependent.