You worry that your child is growing up to be quite the pessimist – after all, being optimistic and enthusiastic is much more appealing than being the naysayer.
A pessimistic child has such a downbeat view of life that she is miserable much of the time; she expects things to go wrong and when something unpleasant does occur, she accepts it without challenge.
However, your child may not be as cynical as you think; maybe she is just having a difficult time at school or with her friends. To find out if she really is a pessimist, ask yourself the following questions:
– Does she cry easily when things don’t go according to plan?
– Does she give up quickly when she tries to learn a new skill?
– Does a change in her routine always result in her becoming upset?
– When she has had an argument with her friend, does she take a long time to cheer up?
– Do her brothers and sisters comment that she moans all the time?
– When playing with a new game, does she give up without really trying?
– Is she easily put off by a negative remark from another child or adult?
If your answer is “yes” to the majority of these questions, then it is highly likely that she is indeed a pessimist.
That means it’s time for you to encourage her to have a brighter outlook, to have a more positive view of the world around her, and to enjoy life more.
There’s plenty you can do to help her.