Young Parents Team
Nagging at the kids only gets them so far. Instead, instill self-motivation in your child, so that he’ll take initiative to work hard and achieve success on his own. Daniel Koh, a psychologist from Insights Mind Centre, shares the the dos and don’ts of raising a self-motivated child.
1. Encourage sports It emphasises progress, practice, discipline and focus, which apply to schoolwork as well.
2. Get him out of the class Activities that require a non-academic learning style will equip your child with problem-solving abilities. He’ll learn to find ways around problems and won’t give up easily.
3. Want him to try something new? Pique his interest first. Children are motivated by interest.
4. Own time, own target Deadlines create negative emotions and stress, decreasing his enjoyment of the task, which decreases motivation.
5. Help your child to recognise the positive relationship between effort and success. Once your child links effort to success, he will be motivated to work harder.
6. Concentrate on the positive in any learning experience and understand the child’s study style.
1. Give crazy deadlines Burnout is discouraging rather than motivational.
2. Set him a task that’s suitable only for older kids Repeated failure will cause frustration.
3. Force him to do something he really dislikes.
4. Insist he do it your way He may prefer using his own method and have more success that way.
5. Overuse rewards like money or new games. This decreases intrinsic motivation and pushes the child to work only for the outcome. If this happens, your child will not see value in the process when he encounters failure.
6. Scold your child if he fails Fear of failure will only result in him avoiding the task.
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