12 ways to use positive discipline with your child

July 17, 2019
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    Discipline involves helping children develop self-control.

    It is about setting limits and correcting behaviour, through encouragement, modelling and experience, rather than punishment.

    Avoid falling into the trap of focusing on negative behaviour and punishment by creating a positive environment. There are various ways to achieve this.

    Fiona Walker, group managing director of the Julia Gabriel Group, gives some suggestions on how to discipline your child effectively.

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    Spend lots of leisurely time together.

    Related: Toddler discipline: 10 common mistakes new parents make

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    Share important activities and meaningful play.

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    Listen and answer as an equal, not as an instructor.

    Related: 8 ways to increase your child’s attention span

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    Compliment the child’s efforts, for example: “Wow, you put your shoes on all by yourself!” rather than empty praise such as “Wow, you are a clever boy!”

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    Use lots of smiling, touching, cuddling, kissing, rocking and patting.

    Related: 4 ways to spend quality time with your child

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    Show her how to make amends if she’s too young to do it alone.

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    Expect restitution if rules have been broken, for example, make sure the toy is returned or replaced.

    Related: 10 ways to help your child overcome bullying

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    Take action yourself. Say sorry if you have broken a rule or hurt someone’s feelings.

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    Allow natural consequences. If your child has forgotten to bring along his PE kit, let him be reminded by his teacher.

    Related: 10 discipline laws for step parents

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    Set and apply reasonable restrictions, including grounding or removal of privileges.

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    Use self-control timeout. Say: “You can join in as soon as you are ready to play without snatching.”

    Related: 8 secrets to toddler discipline

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    Be consistent in your use of timeout or other restrictions.

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    With the best will in the world, you will still need tools of consequence to help children learn what to do after things go wrong.

    Instilling positive discipline in your child will not happen overnight and you may feel disheartened.

    Remember, it is normal part to push boundaries while growing up. Your child will try to see what is and not acceptable.

    (Photos: 123RF.com)

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    6 discipline secrets from Singapore moms

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