Here are five suggestions to help you break the pattern of spoiling:
1. Don’t buy her what she wants every time
Make sure there are occasions when she does not get her own way. You aren’t being cruel when you do this; you’re helping prepare her for the outside world.
2. Point out she already has plenty of toys.
She says “I want” very easily, and may start to ask just for the sake of it. Every time she does this, show her that she already has lots of similar items. That helps her focus on what she has, not on what she hasn’t.
3. Encourage her to think about other people.
A spoiled toddler only sees the world from her perspective, so don’t hesitate to point out how awful her friend felt when she snatched the toy from his hand.
4. Have consistent and structured discipline at home.
Although you may find it easier to give in to your child all the time rather than to say “no” to her, she needs to have a clear set of rules to follow at home.
5. Don’t confuse spoiling with loving.
It’s an easy way for parents to say “yes” to their toddler because it avoids having to set limits, but that doesn’t mean you love her more.