How have you changed since you’ve become a mum? Here are 10 things to remember.
1. Stop obsessing over milestones.
It is completely natural to feel worried over your baby’s development. But, it’s okay if he doesn’t hit every single milestone exactly on time.
Blaming yourself for not scheduling enough tummy time for him when he was a newborn isn’t going to help him crawl or sit up sooner.
Let him explore at his own pace. Never force him into any position his body isn’t ready for.
2. Not use my phone in front of Baby regularly.
From checking your social media accounts, to taking photos and videos of your cutie, you can’t seem to stay away from your smartphone or tablet.
With its bright lights and the occasional vibration that accompanies a notification, it looks like a fun toy to a baby.
Keep the device out of reach when you’re bonding with him. You also wouldn’t want him to get into the habit of swiping the screen and watching videos on it, especially if he’s below two years old.
A sign that he may be addicted to your phone? He cries when you refuse to give it to him.
Consider other ways to engage your little one. I like to play music instead of videos, and keep my tot busy with crayons and paper.
3. Make time for myself.
It’s natural to feel guilty about leaving Baby with someone else, but it’s equally important to give yourself a break every once in awhile. Get a haircut, take a nap, or even a nice long shower.
I enjoy spending an hour or two at a cafe, alone. After a slice of cake and a cup of coffee, I feel revived. So, never neglect your needs. A happy family starts with a happy mum.
4. Just do it.
Fight postnatal blues with exercise. It releases dopamine in your brain, a neurotransmitter that is responsible for the feelings of pleasure and happiness.
If you don’t have the luxury of forking out two hours at the gym, look for workout videos online and do them at home while your little one naps.
If weather permits, you can even put him in a sturdy stroller and head outside for a jog. It’s also a great way to fight the flab and you may even regain your pre-pregnancy body faster.
Taking a long walk in the morning always energises me and I feel less lethargic throughout the day.
5. Show support to fellow mums.
Adjusting to motherhood can be overwhelming. My postnatal blues lasted for at least eight months.
I was dealing with the emotional stress of caring for a fussy infant, juggling between breastfeeding and pumping, plus my own feelings of inadequacy as a mum.
As not many of my peers are mothers, I sought solace in a support group on Facebook. We weren’t friends, but sharing our struggles made me feel less alone.
So, check in with other new mothers – they may be going through similar experiences and may just need a listening ear. Mums, we need each other!