It’s certainly a hectic life for a stay-at-home mum with an active baby, and with no help from a maid or grandparent to boot. How do you keep your sanity and continue enjoying the things you used to do? Prioritise!
This should top your list of things you must do! If you sacrifice sleep for everything else, you’ll soon run yourself into the ground. So get as much as you can.
2. “ME” TIME
You still need to have time to be on your own, even if only for a few minutes each day. Make a point of asking your husband to give you regular breaks for some quiet time. Enlist a friend’s help to babysit your child for an hour, so you can do something you enjoy.
3. TIME WITH HUSBAND
You may tire out from being a stay-at-home mum and your spouse is a work-all-day father, but you should find time for yourselves as a couple. Organise a babysitter so you can go out for a few hours. This isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity.
4. PLAYING WITH YOUR CHILD
The daily schedule seems so demanding, and you’re constantly rushing from one thing to the next. But make time each day to sit and play with him. It doesn’t matter what you actually do during that period; what matters is that you spend time with him, and that you’re enjoying each other’s company.
5. FAMILY OUTINGS
These are difficult to organise, and by the time you’ve marshalled your child and all the necessary childcare equipment that travels with them, you are ready to collapse. But do them anyway. Family outings provide a refreshing change for all of you.
1. TRIVIAL HOUSEHOLD CHORES
Reduce the frequency of tasks that you used to do regularly before the kid came along. Nobody (apart from you) will notice if you dust the bookshelves once a fortnight instead of every week.
2. FANCY MEALS
Food is a central part of family life and great eats don’t have to be elaborate, fancy or time-consuming. Build up a repertoire of nourishing meals that can be made easily and cheaply but yet is still full of flavour. There are plenty of websites that share those types of recipes.
3. BIG CHILDREN’S PARTIES
The next event you have for your little one doesn’t have to involve every child he knows, nor does it have to be better and more exciting than the recent ones he attended. He will be happy with any party you organise for them, as long as you are there with him.
Don’t waste time worrying that you’re not as good a mother as you think you should be. That sort of negative thinking is very unproductive. Instead, have confidence in yourself, your child and your family. Remind yourself that you’re doing a good job as a stay-at-home mother.
5. ENDLESS VISITORS
Much as you might like to see friends and family all the time, entertaining visitors at home is tiring, time-consuming and difficult to arrange. Of course, having visitors is important, but try to keep them at times that suit you and your child’s routines.