Pregnant for the first time at age 41, Samantha Lim was well-aware of the risks of health complications. What she wasn’t prepared for was the stigma attached to being an older mum.
Some people expressed disbelief that she could conceive naturally so late in life, while others wondered aloud if her baby would be born healthy.
“I don’t know whether to laugh at or cry over what they said,” the 42-year-old senior executive manager tells Young Parents.
Not that those snide remarks matter to her now that her baby has arrived hale and hearty.
Little Arvin, now nine months old, is hitting all his development milestones. In fact, he seems more alert and advanced than other babies his age, his proud mummy shares.
Against the odds, Samantha conceived Arvin naturally after six years of infertility, which put a strain on her marriage.
Before she became pregnant, she underwent surgery to unblock a fallopian tube and remove 1kg of tiny fibroid lumps. She also tried traditional Chinese medicine treatments to boost her health.
Despite the numerous challenges she faced, Samantha’s recovery after childbirth was smooth-sailing. She was up and about a day after her caesarean-section delivery, and raring to go home by the third day.
Undaunted by her age, she intends to try for another baby so Arvin can have a sibling.
“My advice to older women struggling with infertility is don’t give up,” she says.
“With medical advances these days, having a baby after the age of 40 is not an impossible hope.”
(Photo: Young Parents)
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