Your young child starts screaming, throws himself on the floor and refuses to get up, unless you buy him what he wants at the toy shop. Sounds familiar?
WHY HE DOES IT
It’s tough for adults to resist that cool gadget or pretty handbag while shopping.
The same goes for kids when they see shelves of colourful toys. Be realistic about your tot’s needs and wants.
“It’s also almost ‘cruel’ to bring a child to a toy store and say to him: ‘We’re not shopping for you – you can play, but you cannot take the toy home,’” says early childhood educator Patricia Koh.
Your precious one may also act up after long hours at a mall.
Patricia adds: “It is not uncommon for parents to take children shopping for long hours – and not understand this is not a child’s favourite pastime. And they need rest.”
WHAT YOU CAN DO
Prevention is always better than cure.
“If you know you’re going to a shop where the kids will inevitably ask to buy sweets, offer healthier alternatives beforehand,” says Preman Komala, an education development specialist.
If the worst happens, remove yourself and your screaming tot from the scene as quickly as possible before you correct his behaviour, advises Preman.
“Don’t make eye contact with anyone because they’re likely to make you feel like you’re the worst parent in the world and impair your judgement,” she says.
“Learn not to let other people’s disapproval scare you off from not giving in.”